Thursday, August 11, 2016

WHEN YOU BECOME THE PARENT

This blog will be a little different from any I have done. It's 2am in the morning and my insomnia is worse than ever but my author mind is sharp!

I have been a parent five times over and loved every single minute of it. OK; well except for the potty training, the projectile vomit and the flu running rampant in the house for three years in a row. Except for all of that; I loved every minute of it.

This time it is a little different. I'm a parent, to MY parents. My dad is a strong, and strong willed man but he is now 79 years old. My mom is a vibrant and sassy woman; who just happens to be 87. (Yes, she was a cougar back in her day)

Now they need more. More than I or even they, thought they would. My mom has lost 85% of her eyesight and 70% of her hearing. She has had both hips replaced and suffers with circulatory problems in her feet; which cause they to swell like stuffed sausages.

My dad just recently had to have eye surgery and suffers from severe neck pain; caused by a fracture in four of his vertebrae about three years ago.

So, they depend on me for a lot and at first I didn't' think I could handle it.

Let me explain. I'm an author; I do that very well. I know how to market and I know how to push myself to the limits. I know how to publicly speak and I know how to get things done.

When my father asked me to accompany them to a DAV (+Disabled American Veterans) function this past week in  Atlanta, I didn't hesitate to say yes. After all, spending time with my parents is always great.

What I didn't know was that they would need LOTS of help. My mom needs assistance standing, walking, eating, and other things that I won't go into. My dad, although mobile, has to help my mom but also has a hard time standing, walking, and doing basic things for himself.

Imagine going on vacation and having the room next door where you become the room service person for 24 hours of a day.

Here's the thing: I LOVED EVERY MINUTE OF IT.

I felt like now was the time I could give back. Now was the time I could help the people who have supported me, helped me and guided me through life. Now was the time that I could say, THANK YOU, without hearing; "We were supposed to do that because we were your parents." Now was my time to become a PARENT to my parents.

And you know what, I love it. I found myself opening up the connecting door just to check on them in the middle of the night. I found myself racing around when I thought they needed something. I made sure they ate before I ate. I made sure they were comfortable before I was.

My parents are THE best and I will be their eyes, ears, chauffeur and cook for as long as they will have me.  This is time I will cherish with them.

Monday, July 11, 2016

WRITING DURING THE SUMMER

During the summer I want to do many things and writing is not really one of them.

However, I'm an author and writing comes natural to me. Have you ever been somewhere and thought; wow that would make a great mystery? Or maybe you went on vacation and said, wow this would be a great place to put some characters and see what they can get into?

If you haven't done that; you are not a writer but most writers will know what I am talking about.

If you notice by the shirt, I wished I was in NYC right now and participating in +ThrillerFest Volunteer Coordinator  but I missed it this year due to being on tour for my own novel. But next year I will be back!

During the summer months, I sit in my office and I just stare off into space. There is not much to do when the students are on break but I get a lot of writing done.

Hopefully you are getting some writing done in between going to the pool, the beach, taking the boat out or fishing. If you are; snap a selfie and post it in my comments below.

I'd love to see what you are doing when you are 'supposed to be' writing.

Happy Summer!

Thursday, June 30, 2016

SUMMER TIME AND THE READING IS EASY....OR IS IT?

It's summer time and the days are longer and the writing should be easy, right?

Well, NO. Because we want to be outside enjoying it. So as an author, what do we do? We run down to our local bookstore and pick up a few good books for the beach, pool, boat or just a lazy Sunday afternoon.

Well, that is getting harder and harder to do because; 1. There aren't many bookstores any more and 2. There are so many great authors to choose from, how can you choose just one.

Just like +Lays potato chips; you can't read or choose just one.

So, as I normally do. I make a budget for myself and say; I'm only going to get 2 or 3 books.

Yeah, like that REALLY happens. I shop for books like I do at the dollar store. I go in for one or two items and come out with a basket full of stuff. (But it's great stuff AND its only a dollar) who could pass that up.

So this summer I am going to try and give you some great new authors to choose from. It's not my fault if you spend to much money. After all, its summer and reading is part of the summer time activity.

1. +Ayesha Shoulders
2. +Frances Frost
3. +Austin Camacho
4. +Jeff Markowitz
5. +JeffreyWesthoff
6. +Annie Rose Alexander
7. +Dee Lawrence
8. +Puja Guha
9. +krraye@jpadpublishing.com
10. +Sharon Lucas

These are just a few of the people that I recommend and their books will keep you on the edge of your seat or at the very least teach you a few things.

So take a chance and go on; pick up a book or two. (Maybe three or four)

Happy Reading!

Monday, June 20, 2016

ONE DAY AT A TIME

Now is the time that you should be working on those new manuscripts. Why? Because during the summer most major publishing houses do not bring out new books.

This gives the rest of us a chance to get our books out there

You have to take one day at a time and remember that even when you want to give up on writing or being published; you can't.

So when I want to give up I just remember what I normally do.

One day at a time is how I approach my writing.

One day I sit and think of the concept.

One day I begin typing without an outline.

One day I finish and then begin to re-read it and then One day it is ready.

Where are you in your process?

Are you beginning your writing, one day at a time?

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

SURPRISE.....I'M BACK

I took the month of April off to celebrate my 50th birthday!

Yep I needed an entire month because after all; you only turn 50 ONCE in your lifetime and many of us don't make it.

But I'm back and full of it!

Yep, full of ideas and I am going to share an small excerpt of what I have been working on.

Tell me what you think?

(Untitled Mature Romance novel)



She rolled over and noticed the time on the clock. “Holy hell!” she said as she threw the covers from her thick frame. Then she heard it. Snoring.
“Hey, hey.” She said as she pushed the back of the sleeping man on the opposite side of the bed.
“What?” he said groggily.
“It’s nine o clock, you have got to go.” She said as she snatched the covers from his body. She sucked in a breath as those thick, muscular arms and broad shoulders brought back memories from the previous night.
“C’mon it was a late night.” He said as he pulled the blanket back up to his shoulders.
“No, no, no.” she said tugging at the covers. “My son will be here in less than an hour.” Although if she knew her son, it would be more like two hours but she didn’t’ want to tell him that.
“Babe, let me sleep just a little longer. I mean, damn; it’s not like you let me get much sleep last night.” He said as he turned over and grabbed her hand.
“Well, somebody had a lot of mouth and I had to make you live up to your words.” She said as she closed her eyes and let his fingers trace down her C cup breasts.
He moved towards her and brought a hardened nipple to his mouth.
“Look…” she began saying but his tongue slid lower until he was licking her thighs. “Umm, well, since you insist.” She said as she allowed him to climb on top of her and soon nine o clock became nine forty five.
He lay on her back, sweat dripping from him onto her. He kissed her cheek.
“Now that you have thrown off my whole morning, can we now get in the shower before my son gets here?”
“Yes! You want to continue in the shower.” He said as he rolled off of her and sat on the side of the bed.
“No, you shower; I’ll make coffee and then join you. But you better be half way finished by the time I get there. No fooling around.”
“If you say so.” He said as he got up and walked towards the bathroom.
She smiled and let her eyes travel down the length of him. “I’m so lucky.” She said as he turned.
“No, I’m the lucky one.” He said as he closed the door and she heard the water come on in the shower.
She righted herself in the bed and reached for her glasses. She then poured two of her arthritis pills in her hand. She got up and pulled on her robe and slippers. She passed the mirror and brushed down her unruly grey hair.
“Not bad for 57, not bad at all” she said as she continued to the kitchen.

Thursday, March 24, 2016

GREAT INTERVIEW

Going to conferences and being interviewed is two of the best ways to get yourself and your brand out there.

Last year, I was interviewed at the MDC3Con, Creatures, Crimes and Creativity Con.

The interview is now up for your viewing pleasure. 

If you know me, you know that I'm full of information. 

So if you want to know what I'm working on, you will find it here! B. Swangin Webster Interview

Wednesday, March 16, 2016

ARE YOU READY FOR SPRING?

Spring is almost here and the question is; Are you ready?

As an author we should be ready at all times but spring is the time that we should get ourselves in gear for the upcoming 'conference' and 'writing' season.

March and April are typically when you make your definite plans on what conferences, trips or writing events you will attend.

Why you may ask?

Because once you file your taxes you have a little more liquidity to plan such events. In some cases your tax refund may fund your writing endeavors.

In most cases your tax refund will also replenish your stock of books, postcards and marketing swag.

So go online, research some local writing or conferences for writers. Sign up for some that you can afford and then take a look at your marketing handbag. (You do have one don't you?) and see what needs to be thrown out, restocked or refreshed and get to work because it is Spring cleaning time as well. 

So, I'll ask the question again...Are you ready for Spring? and if not; why?