I have been very observant in the last few weeks.
Having a very high blood pressure makes you take notice of small things.
Not that I want to do that but I've been trying to find out the cause.
1. I learned that I am a high energy person.
With high blood pressure sometimes that high energy is not a good thing.
2. I learned that I breath slower when I'm stressed.
Most people breath rapidly during a stressful period. For some reason I like to be different.
3. I learned that I write the best erotic/sexual scenes when I'm stressed.
Hmmm, is that a good thing or a bad thing.
4. I learned that I like mystery and thriller novels.
Yep, I am a staunch book reader and now I'm widening my book reading library.
5. I learned that no matter how small my house is, I'll always have books.
Yep, now re-working those tiny house plans because I need space for my books.
6. I learned that people that SAY they are in your corner and who SAY they will support you, don't.
Yes, this was one of the hardest lessons to learn.
If you aren't going to support that local author, or that friend, stop saying you will. We don't need to hear it. We would rather know it.
See the difference is that everyone wants to feel like they can do something. If you can't do something, you can't do it. But when you say, out loud, that you will. Now that is where the problem lies.
You have backed yourself into a corner. Stop saying what you think they want to hear and just say what they need to hear.
"Yes, I'd like to buy that book but I don't really have time to read." "Yes, I'd like to donate but really don't have any money." "Yes, I'd like to come but I really just want to stay home and relax".
See, it's not that hard.
Observe what people say and then act accordingly.
That's what I do now and it's leading to less stress for me.